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Wednesday, September 1st, 2010Travolta’s Law
Thursday, August 26th, 2010Here in England, it’s summer. I know that for sure because the schools are out and everyone’s in carefree mood.
What a pity then that for some it won’t last. For, by some cruel act of scholastic planning, slap bang in the middle of the holidays, out come the end-of-school exam results.
Now, I don’t know about you, but one of the worst tasks a trainer or coach has to face is going through failure with their trainees, for example, when they’re being coached for a qualification or exam. It’s not just trying to come to terms with the consequences of the failure, it’s about picking them up from the feelings of failure too.
OK, I know the theory. I’ve used it many times, not least on my three eldest children, who, in different ways, all “failed” to achieve what they wanted in their exams or career ambitions.
I’ve tried all of the following:
“Don’t think “failure”, think: “I’ve not succeeded yet.”
or
“To try something you can’t do, to fail, and try again; that’s real success.”
or
“It’s only those who take a chance who fail.”
or
“There’s only two ways to fail: giving up or trying too hard.”
or
“Every failure brings with it a gift in its hands.”
Naturally, when you’re standing there with your exam results in one hand and swallowing back the tears, that gift’s a bit hard to make out.
That’s why this year, on the occasion of my last child’s school exam results, I’m preparing a different approach.
It comes from Jerry Zucker who calls this approach “Travolta’s Law”.
Jerry Zucker is a Hollywood producer and director. One day, he and his brother David and friend Jim Abrahams were having pie at Rumpelmeyer’s Coffee Shop in New York on the day after their third movie “Top Secret” came out. Spread out around them on the coffee tables were the morning papers. The reviews of the movie were terrible and it was bombing at the box office. The trio were into some serious moping and self-flagellation when John Travolta walked in.
Jerry knew Travolta from his Paramount days and poured out his troubles to the movie star.
Travolta just smiled and said, “Guys, the thing you have to remember is that nobody else is paying as much attention to your failure as you are. You are the only ones obsessed with the importance of your own life. To everyone else, it’s just a blip on the radar screen. So just move on. By the way, are you going to finish that pie?”
Jerry found the advice very liberating. It helped him come to terms with the reaction of the critics to “Top Secret” and encouraged him to move on. Not long after, he went on to produce the hilarious and very successful “Naked Gun” spoof films and one of my all-time favourites, “Ghost”.
Now, when Jerry Zucker “fails”, he just goes out, has a piece of pie, and saves a bit for John Travolta.
I really hope this year my daughter’s results will be everything she hopes for. And her friends too.
But if they’re not, oh well, I’ll always have Travolta’s Law to fall back on.
This sorrow takes ahold — {SonAmy//BETA}
Thursday, August 26th, 2010Spam it: www.youtube.com I bet I know what you’re all thinking: safhdesaiouhrtfesijf Dfijdsfjhds She made a Sonic video?! WTF? Reason: There was a studio that I was going to try and enter, but I knew I wouldn’t finish this video in time. So, for now, it’s a beta. I have iffy feelings on it. Song: Falling Inside the Black Artist: Skillet Anime: Sonic X, (and the game cut scene from Unleashed :3) Program Used: Sony Vegas Pro 8.0 Paring?: It’s supposed to be Sonamy. I DON’T OWN ANYTHING ;D
Relationship Rescue – 3 Eye Opening Tips on How to Deal With an Abusive Ex
Thursday, August 26th, 2010Are you dealing with an abusive ex that you’re still in love with? I have some advice on how to deal with an abusive ex, and rescue your relationship. Relationship rescue is not impossible with an abusive ex, you just need to know how to deal with an abusive ex.
Relationship Rescue – How to Deal With an Abusive Ex – Tip 1
Dealing with an abusive ex boyfriend/girlfriend can be a bitch. You still love them but they continue to hurt your feelings. You ask yourself “how can I still love her/him after that?” The first step to relationship rescue, and dealing with an abusive ex, is to start using the no contact rule, and stick to it.
Don’t worry they aren’t going anywhere or they wouldn’t be contacting you, after all they already left…didn’t they? Your relationship rescue will be more successful if you stop worrying about things you have no control over.
Relationship Rescue – How to Deal With an Abusive Ex – Tip 2
Another great way to deal with an abusive ex husband/wife is to work on your emotional control while using the no contact rule. Having emotional control will help you to not take it so personal. Relationship rescue requires focus and determination, while you deal with an abusive ex.
You see sometimes you make matters worst by thinking with your heart, not your head. Use your head and you will find it a lot easier to deal with an abusive ex. You should be thinking about a plan for getting your ex back, if you still love them. If not, you will still need a good plan for getting over your abusive ex.
Relationship Rescue – How to Deal With an Abusive Ex – Tip 3
Dealing with a verbally abusive ex is one thing, but if they are physically abusive, you’re in a toxic relationship, and should just end it. I know you feel like you’re still in love, but don’t kid yourself, unless they get counseling, it will not stop. Relationship rescue for a situation like this, is for your ex to get some counseling.
If they refuse, it’s time to give up on this relationship rescue, and move on. You can get over an abusive ex with some self help relationship advice. Your library carries self help CD’s and books, of course personal support would really help. Someone to talk to while you work your way through a self help plan. I really hope that relationship rescue is possible for you, and your abusive ex.
Most people can not do this all by themselves. That is why it is wise to find someone who will help you take on this battle. If you are emotionally unbalanced you need someone or something to keep you in balance…Right? Dealing with an abusive ex, and relationship rescue is much easier, with the right approach.
You need a plan, a plan that works. If you want to survive this abusive ex you’ll need help. If you do not have a good plan I do, and it works. I’ll be happy to help you, and to support you. Just contact me and start learning how to deal with an abusive ex. Do It Today! Learn from your mistakes before you make them, and achieve relationship rescue. What can I do to help you deal with your abusive ex? Write me and let me know…OK?
Until next time,
S. Williams
~I know that “love hurts” but with my help you will get strong enough to kick love’s ass~
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He has written many articles and will work one-on-one with you, to help you follow the best plan out there…to win back your ex.
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Jimmy Fallon Impersonates Kate Gosselin’s Paso Doble From Dancing With The Stars – Video
Wednesday, August 25th, 2010Jimmy Fallon, host of Late Night with Jimmy Fallon, shows Kate how to really dance. Kate Gosselin, who’s been struggling with the paparazzi, seems to have somehow made it onto Dancing With The Stars.
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Kate danced with Tony Dovolani, the Paso Doble. Seeing as how she got kicked off so early, there’s bound to be criticism. I don’t know why a woman trying to hide from the papa wants to be on that show anyway.
Jimmy Fallon expresses Kate’s dance on his show, with even a slightly better execution. The part where there was improvisation is where Kate suffered the most, and Jimmy sure didn’t let that one slip.
I almost didn’t recognize Kate with that weave, but Jimmy can definitely pull it off too.
Before the dance Jimmy mocks “I got attacked by the papparazzi again this morning. I think my feelings can be expressed in dance.” LOL Jimmy’s success on his show is not undeserved.
The house band played Gaga’s “Paparazzi” to Jimmy’s reenactment as he sported a blood-red top and a blonde wig with a rose.
Critics are very harsh on Kate’s dance saying it was difficult to even watch. Personally I feel bad for the woman. But check out both clips here and decide for yourself. Is Jimmy being too harsh on Kate? Is the media being too harsh on her? Maybe she’s bringing this all upon herself. I couldn’t imagine being put in those shoes.
How To Be a Pet Whisperer
Wednesday, August 25th, 2010
I’s not sure why they call it whisperer. It’s probably because the technique involves whispering or talking very softly to animals.
I’ve been doing it all my life. I’ve always had a way with animals, namely dogs, cats, horses, camels, cattle, ferrets, rats, mice and various birds. It’s always seemed natural to me to communicate with animals. I believe they like being talked to and have always thought of them as beings in their own right.
I’ve always believed that animals can “sense “you. They can feel your mood and whether you have good, bad or indifferent intentions. This is very important because you have to approach an animal in a genuinely calm and friendly mood if you want to make friends. If you are angry or tense it won’t work.
So number one rule is be in a peaceful and friendly mood. A loving mood is ideal.
Animals will want to smell you. They will remember your body smell like we might remember a face. But they don’t like certain smells, especially things like after shave or perfume. You too can pretend to smell them by sniffing. This is a form of communication.
The next thing is not to move quickly and suddenly or make noises. Fast and sudden movement alarms creatures, especially birds. You need to move slowly and quietly. With a very nervous animal you might not even get next to it. You might have to sit nearby until it gets use to you.
A food treat is also handy to have on offer.
Now comes the talking. You can talk softly and if you are close enough you can whisper in the pet’s ear. I talk as if I’m talking to another person. It’s friendly, loving conversation. I’m telling the pet honestly how much I love it and what a nice creature it is. If it’s in pain or upset I talk to comfort and sooth it. I really feel deeply inside myself that I love this creature and want to be its friend and I believe the pet can sense those feelings and thoughts.
Eventually the pet will get closer to you and come to expect these private moments. Somehow a deep understanding develops between you and your pet and there is love and respect.
It doesn’t always happen overnight. Sometimes it might not happen completely when, for example, an animal has previously been treated very cruelly. But with patience you will at least achieve a closer friendship and make the animal happier.
James Larkin is a veteran journalist who has worked with newspapers in Britain,Europe, South-East Asia and Australia. British-born, he now lives in Australia. Read his blog at http://pet-patter.blogspot.com or his website http://pet-training-care.com
The Planet Mars
Wednesday, August 25th, 2010Mars is the earth of action – apparent and clean. The energy we put forth in the world is linked to Mars. Our actions are very black-and-pasty. We are each burden this or liability that. Why we are doing them, what they mean, etc. is a different concern. Nevertheless every action vindicate. It is what is. This is the kind of Mars, to act toward a goal. Not to grill it, (Mercury and Jupiter) and not to get distracted or cease to have ourself along the way (the moon and Venus). No, once we set our opinion do something there is a persuade for it. “I have to go to the bathroom” – “I have to coating the car” – “I have to make affection” – “I have to explode a large bomb in a communal place,” these are all examples of Mars. A vindicate and positive action, oriented toward a goal, based on penury, a preference or rule. We have many ideas and feelings but take only one action at a time.
Mars does not classify our goals, he acts leading them. Generally it is the interplay between Mercury and Jupiter, illuminated by the Sun, that classify our goals. When we use Mars to act, we are slender. When we use Mars to dialect, we in agitate because Mercury is the one who speaks best – Mercury likes to have fun, likes to tell joking, likes to play, enjoys the interaction. Don’t you have chatted to people like that? Mercury moved sideways, Mars moves ahead. When Mars is talking there is impatience, perhaps irritability, even anger or violence. “Who has time to talk, I’m taken.”
It is black-and-pallid with Mars. Most conversations, ideas and people are not black-and-ashen. When Mars is crucial our long-stretch goals we in perturb. Jupiter is the best to control our long-period goals – long call goals should be based on tradition, what we have academic, bigger eyesight. Mars is in the jiffy, hasty. We only act in the jiffy, but our principles penury to be based on more than our fleeting desires. “You are either serving me make the goal or in my way.” This is Mars senses. It is very effective for receiving effects has done, but not very effective for much moreover.
This black-and-sallow deep scenery of Mars aligned with a worthy root is an unstoppable drive. Mars is the most important globe for Hatha yoga. The courageous, simplistic contact to life is what eventually allows us to put into prepare what we know is right, because in many conduct life is very austere – it IS black-and-colorless. We are forever faced with a selection to either respect what we know is right and do the right thing or slide on our principles and do what is easiest, or the most convenient to suchlike argue. Usually the reason we slide is because it is harder to do the right thing, we have to endure if we are to put into repeat what we have scholarly.
For request, we know it would be best for us to get up at 6 a.m. and do some meditation, breathing exercises, yoga to edge our day. Nevertheless, ” boy this bed feels good and I did yoga three years ago,” sound relaxed? The same is sincere with food and other sensual choices. This is the interplay between Mars and Venus. An intense Mars will get up out of bed early and do the right thing. Mars is ready to bear for our principles. In actuality Mars is prepared to die for principles, that is why Mars is also connected to warfare. Even when it comes to argue, it is the same idea. It is much easier to make a kind and go with the drift. Nevertheless Mars is where we draw the line – it is where we are disposed to bear and beget distress on others because of what we think is right. That is his job. Defining what we actually think is right is superstar else’s job, primarily Mercury and Jupiter. Nevertheless based on the, whatever we think is right, Mars will act.
The character of each planet is to do one thing very well and everything else entirely poorly. Nevertheless that is OK, you only need to total one energy and that will open every other one. What typically happens is people lean to overeat their stronger planets as a way to compensate for the weaker ones they are neglecting; fairly than use each appropriate energy when basic.
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy – Effective Eating Disorder treatment
Wednesday, August 25th, 2010Eating disorders are about much more than food and weight. They stem from multifaceted psychological issues. In fact eating disorders may have life-threatening physical and emotional consequences. Today if we carefully study the current scenario then we can see that eating disorders, such as compulsive or binge eating, anorexia and bulimia has widely affected millions of people in every walk of life. It is more kind of psychiatric illnesses and addictive disorders that has affected many people across the globe.
Thousands of people die every year from the physical problems caused by eating disorders. Most sufferers never seek eating disorder treatment and those who attempt to control eating disorders usually follows procedures like dieting, fasting, over-exercising, laxatives or using simple pills. These strategies can produce short term control, but they do not provide an answer to eating disorders and can often make things even worse. However, with the right type of eating disorder treatment, people can get well and gradually learn to eat normally again. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is just one of the few treatment procedures that follow a psychotherapeutic approach and aims to control dysfunctional emotions, behaviors through a goal-oriented and organized procedure.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a type of psychotherapy that generally gives emphasis to the vital role of thinking in what we do and how we feel. It is primarily based on the idea that our thoughts affect our feelings and behaviors. Focusing on this prime fact, therapists try to help people in re-shaping their feelings about food and bodies so that suffer can make healthy choices instead of disordered ones. As Therapists follow a psychotherapeutic approach, they try to learn what their clients want out of life. During this eating disorder treatment procedure, therapist’s role is to listen, educate and encourage, while the client’s roles is to convey concerns, learn and execute that learning.
It is important to understand that eating disorder is not just associated with eating habits or diet. It is connected with many other factors, including society, family or psychological issues and cognitive behavior therapy touches on all of these factors. Many people from all across the world who have effectively recovered from eating disorders through this behavioral therapy state that their sessions actually helped them attach with their emotions. They learned a good attitude toward eating and improved their self esteem. They learned how to eradicate pessimistic thought patterns and turn them into an optimistic voice.
Today, it has achieved wide popularity both for therapists and consumers. However to make cognitive-behavioral therapy more effective, be sure you work together with your counselor toward on common goals. It is just like an active type of counseling.
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Philippine Dating Sites With Manila Single Women And Girls
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First Date Weirdness: That Awkward Silence
Tuesday, August 24th, 2010First dates for some can be intimidating and stressful. Often, one’s mind and emotions are overcome with insecurities and fears.
Conversation normally is a big factor for a positive date outcome as well as a great influence on the failure of your date.
Carrying a conversation during a first date can become difficult and uneasy at times, since you hardly know the individual you are dating (specially on a blind date), making it hard to open up and think of a certain topic to talk about and with slight tension and nervousness, things can be really awkward.
On dates, usually a person is scared of rejection and failure; thus is nervous and conscious on what to say. It has to be the right things; sparking his/her interests as the wrong words may either injure your date’s feelings or make the conversation boring. This is because usually one is very concerned about one’s impression that he/she is able to convey to his/her date.
One’s apprehensions can lead to damaging results, usually paralyzing one’s thoughts and emotions, thus inhibiting one’s capability to behave confidently and normally like one would do when he is in the company of family and friends.
As a result, one ends up in a very humiliating and embarrassing situation, which one describes in dating as “awkward silence”.
Almost everyone is capable of carrying on an effortless, enjoyable and easy going conversation with individuals they are familiar with and therefore having the proper approach, so one can do it with the girl/guy on one’s first date.
One solution here is to think ahead of time the things that you can open up or topics that can start a good conversation; ask a common friend of his/her interest, hobbies, sports, career, etc.
Another solution is to relax and be yourself; never pretend to be somebody that you are not. Keep in mind that it’s no use when your date will like for putting up a front; it will be a great feeling to know that your date liked you for what you are.
Never brag, talking constantly of your awards and accomplishments as this would only set arrogant impression on you. Keep your conversation as simple as possible keeping away discussions about politics or religion.
Also, do not intrude or ask personal questions; whatever your date wants to relate to you, he/she will tell you on his/her own. Never too, talk about your experience about past relationships, as this will make your date feel uneasy. Making your date feel at ease with your conversations, for sure there will be a second time around for both of you.
Let your date talk and you have to listen well, as this will allow you to collect ideas of the things that interest your date and make these as topics for your conversation as well as be acquainted with your date much better. Furthermore, being a great listener is one positive feature that any ideal date can possess.
Take note that most often than not, people are tempted or even talk about their life story. Be careful, as this might only bore your date. Instead, loosen up and select an easy topic or general things such as movies, food, or anything that is of interest to your date. Or be funny and joke a little, you do not need to be all that formal.
Basically, when you are listening well to your date, you’ll know what you both have in common, so talk about that, so you can develop a good bond.
Do not let the “awkward silences” worry you, at some point those silences will come, but know that as they embarrass you, they also embarrass your date. Awkward silences are never a basis for you to conclude that your date is not interested in you; he/she just might be in a similar situation as you.
Relax and be yourself. When “silence” do come, break it with a joke, a compliment or a question and remember to be honest; let your date know how nervous you are (when you are). Letting your date know how to feel on this first date will take away the tension on he/she is feeling and will make him/her comfortable and can handle the situation better.
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